I agree with you, Susan, about behaviors that we can work on changing. But personalities? I think we work on accepting who we are, learn to stop berating ourselves. Can we work on being the best version of ourselves? Yes, I think so. But we have been taught for too long to not accept parts of ourselves. And thus we end up possibly acting…
I agree with you, Susan, about behaviors that we can work on changing. But personalities? I think we work on accepting who we are, learn to stop berating ourselves. Can we work on being the best version of ourselves? Yes, I think so. But we have been taught for too long to not accept parts of ourselves. And thus we end up possibly acting those parts out. As I have said to my friends, I can speak extroversion, but it is not my native tongue. It's good to speak different languages.... But my core is my core. And it's good. I may have learned certain coping mechanisms to protect myself and to survive... And I can work on those that don't serve me well. But finally, at this stage of my life, I can see that it's about accepting and loving who I am, finally. About ending the war with myself. It is out of that acceptance that my best version can emerge.
I agree with you, Susan, about behaviors that we can work on changing. But personalities? I think we work on accepting who we are, learn to stop berating ourselves. Can we work on being the best version of ourselves? Yes, I think so. But we have been taught for too long to not accept parts of ourselves. And thus we end up possibly acting those parts out. As I have said to my friends, I can speak extroversion, but it is not my native tongue. It's good to speak different languages.... But my core is my core. And it's good. I may have learned certain coping mechanisms to protect myself and to survive... And I can work on those that don't serve me well. But finally, at this stage of my life, I can see that it's about accepting and loving who I am, finally. About ending the war with myself. It is out of that acceptance that my best version can emerge.