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Sanya Khurana's avatar

I'm extremely sensitive and so often I become agreeable just to people around me just so that I am not bullied. I've often realised people are nicer to me when they think I'm "less" than them .. as soon as I share any of my achievements , like the fact that I'm a ted x speaker or have written two books, there is always someone who starts making sarcastic comments and taunts and start pulling me down. I was bullied a lot in the corporate after I got early promotions. I am learning to not be afraid of these bullies and take a stand for myself -- but I find it really really hard and I sometimes wish the world was a better place and there was no bullies in the world .

If I don't have fear of bullying it would be so much easier for me to be my authentic self

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Susan Cain's avatar

You're not alone re your ardent wish for the world to be a better place!!

And I totally get making yourself seem "less than" as a safety strategy - and still I wonder if you can experiment, little by little, with expressing yourself and your achievements authentically - I bet you'll find that the price you have to pay is not as big as the one you pay for staying small/untrue to yourself.

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