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I love all of these recommendations. My only dilemma, as usual, is that my to-read list is already a few lifetimes long! Definitely looking forward to tonight's conversation with Pico Iyer.

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Jun 25Liked by Susan Cain

I've been following Ryan Holiday for some time and have read his books. It really helped me find a better way to handle the challenges in my life, and I found myself embracing stoicism. I journaled using The Daily Stoic Journal several years ago, and I decided then that I will revisit those prompts again at some point to see how my perspective has changed since I first reacted to his prompts.

I'm really interested in reading Pico Iyer's book AFLAME as well as The Orientalist, so thank you for those suggestions.

On a side note, on an outing with my sister and brother-in-law a few years ago, I began getting really hungry and blurted out, "I'm ravenous!" My brother-in-law said, "Who uses that word? Have you been reading some romance novels?" I don't read romance novels, and the word feels completely normal to me!

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Yes exactly!

The other day I mentioned someone importuning someone else and now Ken uses that word every chance he gets :)

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That quiet leader treasure trove appealed to me immediately. It struck a chord since I heard your audible.

Also, Pico Iyer is someone that crossed my path when I gazed a short TED book from his about silence.

And serendipitiously enough, I've been also reading about the slow movement. So, the Candlelight Chat sounds most wonderful and a conversation with a really interesting man that can teach us something about the value of silence and stopping.

Love your creative provocations Susan and that Ken calls you a duchess. If so, you make me feel so warm and cozy in this quiet kingdom of ours!

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Love this, Antonio, and shared this with Ken. :)

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All hail the Quiet Duchess of Cain, Lady Susan :)

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I love how supportive you are to all of those authors! That 18th century speak is so unique and doesn't sound contrived. You're a great cheerleader Susan! Thanks for the recommendations! Sabrinalabow.substack.com

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Thank you Susan for the list of recommendations! I read The Orientalist years ago. I remember it being a very interesting book. I may read it again given the circumstances the world is in. I look forward to the upcoming candlelight chat!

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Jun 23Liked by Susan Cain

I’ll be looking into quietly powerful leaders and re-engaging with Gretchen Rubin

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Dear Fancy Striker,

I am very intrigued by the book, The Orientalist, that you suggested. However, I feel a bit uneasy about reading it. Given the state of our world and how saturated we are with "troubling" events, did you find that the theme of global turmoils affected your mindset negatively?

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For me, it didn't, because my reaction to troubles and turmoils is to crave greater understanding of them, preferably through individual stories. But everyone is different, so you should follow your own instincts, I think.

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Jun 23Liked by Susan Cain

Thank you for the recommendations! Another indication that we are kindred souls: I think I also talk like a 18th Century dutchess! I saw myself in that remark! Made my day.

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:) Did you read a lot of Bronte sisters and British boarding school novels and such? I think that's where my speech patterns came from.

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Thank you for the recommedations, and I look forward to hearing Pico. I cannot recommend enough, "Fever in the Heartland" by Timothy Egan. It is riveting and provides so much context for the place we are in as a nation.

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Jun 23Liked by Susan Cain

I’ve read a couple on your list, but the Orientalist is intriguing. Just ordered it. Thanks.

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Jun 23Liked by Susan Cain

Well i was just contemplating, hmm what books to take to the beach this year when i came across your post….now i have a stack of 6 books ordered….and the orientalist is top of the list…

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Jun 23Liked by Susan Cain

Oh my goodness, your next candlelight is with Pico Iyer’s! I’ll need to deal with a schedule conflict but will figure it out. His books are in my section of books for contemplations (I don’t read those books back to back, it’s just few pages at the time, from one book and then another, part of my meditations and contemplations, eventually I’ll finish them); As a Stoic what can I say about Ryan’s books, that’s part of my Stoic studies and practices, the book you’ve recommended is part of a series on the four cardinal virtues although I recommend to also add the Ego is the Enemy and Stillness is the Key (not Ryan’s intention but I found them to be supportive of the new series); Gretchen, her writing always gets me thinking, I’ve incorporated some of her tip and ideas in my ways to living and leading; I’m thinking on the book, The Orientalist, I love reading about history, mid 19th thru mid 20th centuries seem such an interesting time in modern civilization, and I’m noticing some similarities and repeating cycles now, and some are not exactly for the best so would be interesting to check that book, and I am definitely checking the quite leaders interviews, always seeking wisdom out of them and how to incorporate ideas in my own leadership style. Thank you Susan for all the recommendations.

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Jun 23Liked by Susan Cain

I love the '19th century duchess' comment from Ken! 😘

The Orientalist intrigues especially as it's still popping up in your mind after reading it a while back. With all that you read, Susan, that's a big recommendation.

Big love x

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Love these recommendations. I just ordered the Orientalist and reserved another one of his books, Black Count. I also love the line drawing of the woman reading by Frederic Forest. I have always been a fan of Gretchen Rubin and didn't know she had a newsletter, so thank you.

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Jun 22Liked by Susan Cain

that line drawing of woman reading by Frederic Forest is FABULOUS! I immediately went to his instagram page and am following him! thank you susan for always introducing us all to such beautiful art---

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Jun 22Liked by Susan Cain

I just signed up for Gretchen‘s five things making me happy newsletter. I am always up for anything that can spread more happiness and enjoy in my life along those same lines. I just subscribed to a periodical called positive news for $30. You get four issues a year and also the digital issue. Looking forward to reading about some positive news in the world and some happiness tips from Gretchen.

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