Thank you for your work, Susan. I wish I had this guide a few years ago when I was advocating to school authorities about my then introverted fourth grader. I gave them lots of studies and other resources for introverted learners. Sometimes their eyes glazed over but overall they were receptive and agreed to train their teachers better - teachers who clearly rewarded the extroverts. Now these years later she’s a more self aware, self advocating ace of a student.
Lovely, think all of us here empathize with the struggles of being introverted in a still highly extroverted society and for many of us school was a tough place to learn with only one way of learning and social involvement being taught it left the whole introverted side out of the equation... But I hope the extroverted teachers and bosses, managers see this to; for the hope of widening their perspective and finding deeper insight not just within themselves but their students and employees to... Creating
a balance narrative for all to learn and prosper... May everyone have a lovely beautiful day Rainbow Trials
Yes, completely agreed. I suffer from this point, some managers think that employees who are good speakers having skills and background better than those who work silently.
I wish I had this guide when I was a law school professor. So many law students are brainy introverts, they often get outshined by their extroverted classmates. I also wish my boss (the Dean) would have read this. She always gave me good reviews but didn't really know how to verbalize my strengths. You are providing a great service to the educational community.
Wow! I know I would not have struggled with self esteem issues if this had been available when I was in school. The extroverted children were always revered. On the other hand I was labeled “shy” and prone to “day dreaming” when in fact I was LISTENING and formulating in my head what to say when I gathered the courage to “contribute”.
Thank you for sharing this so that the quiet mindful children are recognized for their strengths.
I wish my teachers had this and other resources as a tool :) This is so encouraging to know that this is a resource being put out into educational circles. Neurotypical education in the USA on the east coast for me was always about who could say the most or assert themselves first even if they were not contributions of depth.
I'm sure most kids are introverted or shy for psychological reasons, don't forget about the ones who act shy or introverted because they have a hearing problem. In my personal experience, behavioral issues that were attributed to being "inattentive" or "stubborn" or "disobedient" or "quiet" were actually caused by the inability to understand what was being said.
Thank you so much for sharing this, Susan! I *feel* the value in two directions. One is as someone who works with children in a school. You’ve provided such a large number of valuable and helpful comments. The second is as a human being. I was instantly transported back to my experience as a student throughout my education. Reading certain comments brought tears to my eyes. If someone has said or written these comments about me, I think it would have been life-changing! I went through most of my life feeling like there was something wrong with me or I was lacking something. Comments like these would have helped me feel seen and understood by the teacher. I would have seen the way I was as a strength instead of a weakness. It would have helped ‘build me up’ instead of ‘push me down’. I plan to be more intentional at remembering this as I communicate with children and their parents.
Thank you for this strengths-based resource! I suspect it will be very helpful for caregivers in conversations with teachers. I tried (unsuccessfully) to make a one-page guide based on "Quiet" when my daughter was in high school watching the outgoing, gregarious students receive all the teacher- and administration-awarded opportunities that college admission counselors look for in applicants. Quiet also is powerful and valuable in the classroom, office, and in life. I really appreciate you helping us to articulate that more effectively!
This is such a wonderful strengths-based approach to talking about student skills! I wonder if these statements could be used to highlight the abilities of neurodivergent learners as well?
Thank you for your work, Susan. I wish I had this guide a few years ago when I was advocating to school authorities about my then introverted fourth grader. I gave them lots of studies and other resources for introverted learners. Sometimes their eyes glazed over but overall they were receptive and agreed to train their teachers better - teachers who clearly rewarded the extroverts. Now these years later she’s a more self aware, self advocating ace of a student.
Lovely, think all of us here empathize with the struggles of being introverted in a still highly extroverted society and for many of us school was a tough place to learn with only one way of learning and social involvement being taught it left the whole introverted side out of the equation... But I hope the extroverted teachers and bosses, managers see this to; for the hope of widening their perspective and finding deeper insight not just within themselves but their students and employees to... Creating
a balance narrative for all to learn and prosper... May everyone have a lovely beautiful day Rainbow Trials
Yes, completely agreed. I suffer from this point, some managers think that employees who are good speakers having skills and background better than those who work silently.
I wish I had this guide when I was a law school professor. So many law students are brainy introverts, they often get outshined by their extroverted classmates. I also wish my boss (the Dean) would have read this. She always gave me good reviews but didn't really know how to verbalize my strengths. You are providing a great service to the educational community.
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OUTSTANDING! It really resonates with my younger years when I wasn’t understood by many as a quiet child!
Now at 78 I can’t stop talking…but only in the past few years!
Wow! I know I would not have struggled with self esteem issues if this had been available when I was in school. The extroverted children were always revered. On the other hand I was labeled “shy” and prone to “day dreaming” when in fact I was LISTENING and formulating in my head what to say when I gathered the courage to “contribute”.
Thank you for sharing this so that the quiet mindful children are recognized for their strengths.
I wish my teachers had this and other resources as a tool :) This is so encouraging to know that this is a resource being put out into educational circles. Neurotypical education in the USA on the east coast for me was always about who could say the most or assert themselves first even if they were not contributions of depth.
Just echoing this! How different my self-worth might have been as I entered my middle school years if teachers had a resource like this!
I'm sure most kids are introverted or shy for psychological reasons, don't forget about the ones who act shy or introverted because they have a hearing problem. In my personal experience, behavioral issues that were attributed to being "inattentive" or "stubborn" or "disobedient" or "quiet" were actually caused by the inability to understand what was being said.
this is a very important point.
Thanks for writing/sharing!
Wish teachers had this when my youngest was in school. Would have made all the difference, I’m sure. What a gift!
As an introvert who is also supporting an introvert child, I greatly appreciate this resource.
Wish my teachers had this when I was a kid! Great resource for teachers!
What a brilliant idea. An excellent way to support teachers and an awesome way to recognise pupils!!
Thank you so much for sharing this, Susan! I *feel* the value in two directions. One is as someone who works with children in a school. You’ve provided such a large number of valuable and helpful comments. The second is as a human being. I was instantly transported back to my experience as a student throughout my education. Reading certain comments brought tears to my eyes. If someone has said or written these comments about me, I think it would have been life-changing! I went through most of my life feeling like there was something wrong with me or I was lacking something. Comments like these would have helped me feel seen and understood by the teacher. I would have seen the way I was as a strength instead of a weakness. It would have helped ‘build me up’ instead of ‘push me down’. I plan to be more intentional at remembering this as I communicate with children and their parents.
Thank you for this strengths-based resource! I suspect it will be very helpful for caregivers in conversations with teachers. I tried (unsuccessfully) to make a one-page guide based on "Quiet" when my daughter was in high school watching the outgoing, gregarious students receive all the teacher- and administration-awarded opportunities that college admission counselors look for in applicants. Quiet also is powerful and valuable in the classroom, office, and in life. I really appreciate you helping us to articulate that more effectively!
Amazing and beautiful article I love it, it deserves to read several time. I love it.
This is such a wonderful strengths-based approach to talking about student skills! I wonder if these statements could be used to highlight the abilities of neurodivergent learners as well?