“I have been examining losses. These lifelong losses. These necessary losses. These losses we confront when we are confronted by the inescapable fact…
-that our mother is going to leave us, and we will leave her;
-that our mother’s love can never be ours alone;
-that what hurts us cannot always be kissed and made better;
-that we are essentially out here on our own;
-that we will have to accept—in other people and ourselves—the mingling of love with hate, of the good with the bad;