The Quiet Life with Susan Cain

The Quiet Life with Susan Cain

What brings tears to your eyes, and what do those tears tell you? A replay of our Candlelight Chat

We also talked about boundaries, bullies, current events, meaning, and purpose.

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Sep 02, 2025
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"Anything that brings tears to your eyes is a clue to what you really care about. Just about anything that you dream about is also a clue to what really moves you. Your tears, and your dreams." — from our Candlelight Chat

A week ago Sunday, we came together, “just us,” to discuss your thoughts and questions.

It was an extraordinary hour. You raised many different subjects, but as the hour progressed, I noticed a recurring theme: a sense of loss, a sense that the culture around you no longer has the mutual respect and courtesy you expect, treasure, and remember.

And so we talked about the need to realize that kindness and mutual respect do still exist; and that we should direct our attention to those moments and places where we find it. Also, that we all carry with us the seeds of those cultures we feel to be lost — and we all have the power to scatter those seeds, and plant them on new ground.

To listen to that discussion, and much, much more, just hit the “play” button, below!

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We also discussed:

  • How can sensitive people stand up to bullies?

  • Should we spend less time with people who upset our nervous systems (and our selves)?

  • To what extent do we need to be “informed” of current events, in order to fulfill our responsibility to the world? Is there a tipping point beyond which more information doesn't make a difference?

  • How do you recreate your life (job, marriage) when you realize the life you created isn’t for you?

  • How do you find meaning and purpose? What are your “Core Personal Projects,” and what strategies should you use to actually pursue them?

You can watch and listen, here:

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