Oh, I'm so looking forward to this Chat! Two days ago I watched TED talk of Amy on bullying and I was so shocked about what happened to her. What strucked me is what she said at the end: "...bullies need us. Bullies need an audience. They need people to carry out their agenda...[] But if we refuse our participation, a lone bully is impotent. Without us, a bully is impotent". This is very powerful.
Would love to be a member. However I’m senior citizen on fixed income and strict budget. Maybe you could consider a senior citizen discount for people 70 and older. I’m following on free bc I can’t afford the subscription prices. I wish everyone wellness and much light. Tyvm for reading. Namaste and Peace
Hi there, Maureen. Please write me an email at HELLO@QUIETLIFE.NET from the email you use to sign into Substack and I will walk you through the process. Thanks so much!
Finding ‘Quiet’ 15-ish years ago was like reading my instruction manual and I realised I’m exactly the way I’m meant to be. I’m over 70 now, too, and signed up to the newsletter early on. I consider myself a lifelong learner and would have loved a membership that welcomes people like me, rather than having to peer through the window at what the better off people are enjoying. I’ve seen a scholarship mentioned but can’t see any information about it and without a ‘contact’ button or a separate piece in a future email I guess I’ll never know. Thank you. With love
At what point did you realise that what was going on was beyond normal but indeed very toxic? Who and what helped you overcome the impact of the bullying? Do you think that the person who bullied you had any idea/awareness of the extent of the impact of their actions on you?
It is great to see somebody featured on the Candlelight Chat actually interacting with us in the comments. Looking forward to hearing from you. When I spent my exchange year as a high school student in the US in 80/81, one of the things that struck me was the amount of bullying I saw.
I had experienced bullying in Switzerland. There was this one kid with a crippled arm from birth who had learned karate and had an alcoholic father. He bullied several of us on the way home from school for several weeks before being dealt with by school authorities. He became a dear friend.
But the situation I saw at the two American high schools I was at in Pennsylvania and Virginia was without example for me. We were not allowed in the hallways during lessons; teachers doubled as security guards; students took drugs under the tribunes of the football fields, went to buy beer at the 7/11 nearby.
One family I lived with had six generations alive on the mother's side. The youngest was 1, the oldest 81; each had their first child at 16, and none was married to the father of their first child.
That was 45 years ago in what they called the greatest nation on earth.
Don't get me wrong. I love the States, and I loved the year I spent there. But considering what has been going on since in your country, with bullying being the preferred lifestyle at the very top of politics and business, I struggle to imagine how things have worsened.
That is excellent; I love questions like this. As a man, I think that men cannot be negatively affected if they are subjected to bullying. However, bullying children, women, the elderly, or people with disabilities is absolutely unacceptable anymore.Furthermore, anyone who attempts to bully others should realize that such behavior is neither an act of courage, heroism, or manliness, nor a sign of bravery; rather, it is only a case of an "inferiority complex."
Oh, I'm so looking forward to this Chat! Two days ago I watched TED talk of Amy on bullying and I was so shocked about what happened to her. What strucked me is what she said at the end: "...bullies need us. Bullies need an audience. They need people to carry out their agenda...[] But if we refuse our participation, a lone bully is impotent. Without us, a bully is impotent". This is very powerful.
Would love to be a member. However I’m senior citizen on fixed income and strict budget. Maybe you could consider a senior citizen discount for people 70 and older. I’m following on free bc I can’t afford the subscription prices. I wish everyone wellness and much light. Tyvm for reading. Namaste and Peace
Hi there, Maureen. Please write me an email at HELLO@QUIETLIFE.NET from the email you use to sign into Substack and I will walk you through the process. Thanks so much!
Finding ‘Quiet’ 15-ish years ago was like reading my instruction manual and I realised I’m exactly the way I’m meant to be. I’m over 70 now, too, and signed up to the newsletter early on. I consider myself a lifelong learner and would have loved a membership that welcomes people like me, rather than having to peer through the window at what the better off people are enjoying. I’ve seen a scholarship mentioned but can’t see any information about it and without a ‘contact’ button or a separate piece in a future email I guess I’ll never know. Thank you. With love
Annie, you may write to me at HELLO@QUIETLIFE.NET and I will walk you through the process. Thanks so much.
At what point did you realise that what was going on was beyond normal but indeed very toxic? Who and what helped you overcome the impact of the bullying? Do you think that the person who bullied you had any idea/awareness of the extent of the impact of their actions on you?
I’m so looking forward to this conversation, Susan!
It is great to see somebody featured on the Candlelight Chat actually interacting with us in the comments. Looking forward to hearing from you. When I spent my exchange year as a high school student in the US in 80/81, one of the things that struck me was the amount of bullying I saw.
I had experienced bullying in Switzerland. There was this one kid with a crippled arm from birth who had learned karate and had an alcoholic father. He bullied several of us on the way home from school for several weeks before being dealt with by school authorities. He became a dear friend.
But the situation I saw at the two American high schools I was at in Pennsylvania and Virginia was without example for me. We were not allowed in the hallways during lessons; teachers doubled as security guards; students took drugs under the tribunes of the football fields, went to buy beer at the 7/11 nearby.
One family I lived with had six generations alive on the mother's side. The youngest was 1, the oldest 81; each had their first child at 16, and none was married to the father of their first child.
That was 45 years ago in what they called the greatest nation on earth.
Don't get me wrong. I love the States, and I loved the year I spent there. But considering what has been going on since in your country, with bullying being the preferred lifestyle at the very top of politics and business, I struggle to imagine how things have worsened.
That is excellent; I love questions like this. As a man, I think that men cannot be negatively affected if they are subjected to bullying. However, bullying children, women, the elderly, or people with disabilities is absolutely unacceptable anymore.Furthermore, anyone who attempts to bully others should realize that such behavior is neither an act of courage, heroism, or manliness, nor a sign of bravery; rather, it is only a case of an "inferiority complex."