Ten ways to improve your relat

Ten ways to improve your relationships (and your peace of mind) by setting boundaries

“She Will Find What Is Lost”: Today we’re featuring the sensational art of Brian Kershisnik, whose work you should really check out

Last week, I reposted this simple statement: “One of the most peaceful habits you can build is letting people do whatever they want…. and simply adjusting your distance.” - @onixxx

Many of you resonated with it; some of you asked for concrete tips on how to peacefully adjust your distance, especially from the difficult people in your life.

I’m going to give you ten concrete suggestions, in a minute.

But first, think of a difficult person in your life. Then think how much energy you spend trying to get this person to see things your way. You might wish for them to treat you better, or to exercise more, or to see the political world from your point of view. You might express these wishes out loud, only for them to fall on deaf or angry ears.

Or you might keep these wishes to yourself, expressing them over and over in the seemingly safe chamber of your own mind. And when these wishes (of course) don’t come true (i.e., when the difficult person doesn’t change) you might feel a sense of failure.

But here’s a different approach: