The Quiet Life with Susan Cain

The Quiet Life with Susan Cain

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Is what you say to yourself "kind, true, and useful"?

And: here's the video replay of our Candlelight Chat with Lori Gottlieb, bestselling author of MAYBE YOU SHOULD TALK TO SOMEONE!

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SHOULDN’T YOU BE SPEAKING TO YOURSELF WITH THE SAME KINDNESS, TRUTH, AND USEFULNESS THAT THIS MAN IS SHOWING THIS CHILD? (Image by Maud Longeval - please follow her on Insta at @maoudienne)

Dear You,

If who were able to participate in this past Sunday’s Candlelight Chat with Lori Gottlieb (the psychotherapist and mega-bestselling author of Maybe You Should Talk to Someone) - wasn’t she so full of wisdom? And wasn’t the atmosphere especially delicious? As one of you wrote afterwards, “I may not remember the details of everything that was spoken about, but I remember the feeling of being in the presence of kindness and the message and reminder to treat myself that same way. 💜”

If you’d like to enjoy it again - or watch for the first time, if you couldn’t make it - the video replay is below!

But first: here were three favorite takeaways from Lori:

  1. “If it’s hysterical, it’s historical” - meaning that, if you find yourself or another person reacting to a situation in an over-the-top way, it’s probably because it’s triggering memories of difficult events from the past. This doesn’t excuse difficult behavior (our own, or anyone else’s), but it can help us understand it.

  2. One person doesn’t have to be - and can’t be — all things for us. We can look elsewhere (including ourselves) to have our needs met. When we stop relying on others to be our everything, we give them, and ourselves, freedom, space, acceptance.

  3. ***The person you talk to the most is yourself. Is what you say to yourself kind, true, and useful?

*(For more on this essential point - including an exercise you can do, to help adjust your self-talk - we invite you to watch the chat, below!

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