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Nigel B's avatar

The man I called Dad was sadly not my paternal father. I say sadly because I was the result of an extra marital affair by my mother. I was born in England Just before the end of WWII. These things happened I guess when husband and wives were separated due to the war effort.

But coming back to dad, he was the world for me. Not once did he ever reveal any emotion or thoughts, he may have had due to that situation. In fact, I think he went out of his way to be very special for me. And reflecting on the past, I think he favored me amply, indeed better than my other siblings. For my 16th birthday he gave me a wallet with a ten-shilling banknote inside. Well, the ten shillings are long gone. But I use the wallet daily to this day. There's little chance I'll ever forget him.

He taught me many things: how to listen, how to read, the difference between a trombone and a trumpet, between a Symphany and a concerto, politeness' and incivility and so much more.

I hope I have been half as good as he, for my children.

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Julia Indichova's avatar

Susan, this brought tears. How blessed you are to have had such a close relationship with your father!

A couple of things passed on by my father:

Keep choosing life. No matter what. Even when things appear utterly hopeless, choose life!

Humanize, humanize, humanize every space you enter. The cranky nurse in the palliative care unit? She’s having a tough day, just like you. Flirt with her. Make her laugh.

If you find something or someone to love, go all the way. Don’t worry about what that looks like to anyone else. Give. Be a giver.

And never, ever, EVER underestimate anyone.

It’s actually my father’s birthday on Monday. Such a gift you gave me to spend these few minutes remembering him today.

Much, much love, Susan!

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