How to not care what other people think

8 ways to transcend the pain of social disapproval

Susan Cain

Oct 24, 2025

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The image showcases a piece of art by Saul Steinberg, as indicated by the post text. It features a vintage chair with a whimsical drawing of a woman's face and upper body on the fabric. The drawing is done in a playful, cartoonish style with exaggerated features and flowing hair. Next to the chair is a small, ornate table with a scalloped edge, holding a vase with flowers. The setting appears to be indoors, with a simple background that emphasizes the artistic chair. The overall composition blends furniture with art, creating a unique and visually engaging piece. — Today, we’re featuring art by the legendary Saul Steinberg

“Rest satisfied with doing well, and leave others to talk of you as they please.” —Pythagoras

*Do you experience an acute sting when other people disapprove of you?

*Do you care deeply about (pardon the oncoming cliché) living authentically?

*Does it sometimes seem that these two cares (feeling pained by others’ disapproval; wishing to “be yourself” and say what you think) are at odds with each other?

I think about these questions a lot. It can feel like a gut punch, when people disapprove of us.

So what should we do with this particular type of social pain?

Here are some thoughts:

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How to not care what other people think

8 ways to transcend the pain of social disapproval

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